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Missing You

On the topic of missing people who have died, at just over 3 minutes, I think Hussain Manawer performing ‘The White Rose’, his poem about the loss of his mother is worth a watch:

She died after losing her battle with cancer…

This was the news this month re Dame Tessa Jowell, a former UK Cabinet Minister.

Almost without exception, the media coverage I heard and read talked about her ‘losing her battle with cancer’ or her ‘brain cancer fight’.

These words bother me.

I’ve wondered for quite a while now whether when we talk about cancer in this way we put pressure on everyone who receives a similar diagnosis to ‘fight’.

And, then, when they do die, the implication seems to be that they’ve somehow ‘lost’ or ‘failed’ – and maybe didn’t try hard enough… Continue reading “She died after losing her battle with cancer…”

‘Life Stripped Bare’ – another chance to see it

movers-24403_640I wrote about this UK Channel 4 Series back in 2016 in my blog How Much ‘Stuff’ is Enough? The Naked Truth!.

If you missed it and you’d like to see it, it’s being repeated – starting tomorrow, Monday 28th May, at 11pm.

Enjoy!

The Support (We Think) People Want or Need During Difficult Times

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Commonly known as ‘The Golden Rule’, versions of this sentiment can be found in many cultures and religious and moral frameworks.

It has a strong humanitarian message and seems to work well in a lot of situations.

However, the underlying assumption is that the treatment or behaviour we want or expect from others is the same as they would want from us – and there’s the rub. Continue reading “The Support (We Think) People Want or Need During Difficult Times”

Paper Still Has a Place in Our Digital World

I read an interesting BBC article recently: ‘Why paper is the real killer app.’ paper-153317_1280.png

Even though I use my laptop, phone and tablet a lot for work and socially, writing the old-fashioned way – using pen and paper – still has its place in my life.

And it seems there are plenty of people who agree with me. Continue reading “Paper Still Has a Place in Our Digital World”

Artistic Comments on ‘Enough’

Modern artists such as Michael Landy, the man who destroyed all his belongings as a piece of performance art in 2001 and Neil Boorman and Jasper Joffee who respectively burnt and sold their ‘stuff’ have, in recent years, highlighted the materialism and consumerism abundant in our society today. Dramatic and thought-provoking.

Now we have one of this year’s Turner Prize exhibits at Tate Britain in London featuring a huge pile of pennies – 2043599 to be exact – by Michael Dean  Continue reading “Artistic Comments on ‘Enough’”

What Really Matters at the End of Life

As you may know, I work at our local hospice with people who are been bereaved, and with people who are anticipating bereavement. Because of this, as well as because of my own personal experiences of death of friends and family, I was interested to hear what B J Miller has to say in this TED talk. Continue reading “What Really Matters at the End of Life”

Kim Cattrall: on ageing, later life without children, and single life over 50

I caught up with this podcast recently – it was broadcast on ‘Woman’s Hour’, BBC Radio 4, last month.

In this interview, Kim (best know for her role as Samantha Jones in ‘Sex and the City’) talks about ageing, later life without children and single life over 50. She’s very candid about what this means for her and some of the content seems to apply just as well to men facing these type of issues, as it does to women. Continue reading “Kim Cattrall: on ageing, later life without children, and single life over 50”

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