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Are You an Orchid or a Dandelion?

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They require protection and nurturing to blossom.

On the other hand, Dandelions can thrive virtually anywhere.

I came across this way of explaining how some of us develop differently from others when I was catching up on old episodes of Channel 4’s ‘The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds’.

It’s based on a Swedish metaphor: ‘amaskrosbarn’, a “dandelion child” and ‘orkidebarn’, an “orchid child.”  Continue reading “Are You an Orchid or a Dandelion?”

Do Something, Do Nothing or Do Something Else – for 20 Minutes

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What could 20 minutes do for you?

Depending upon how you use the time, it might:

  • help you get you going with something you’ve been putting off
  • be a welcome break during which you might also learn something new
  • or stop you doing something else that you might regret later.

Allow me to explain….

Continue reading “Do Something, Do Nothing or Do Something Else – for 20 Minutes”

Happier, calmer – and slower?

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I was prompted to think about happiness last week when a note written on the subject by Albert Einstein was sold for $1.56m.

He gave it to a courier in Tokyo in 1922 instead of a tip. Having just heard that he’d won the Nobel prize for physics he told the messenger that, if he was lucky, the note would become valuable – how right he was!

But was he also right in what he wrote in the note itself? It said:

“A calm and humble life will bring more happiness

than the pursuit of success and the constant restlessness that comes with it.” Continue reading “Happier, calmer – and slower?”

Who’s in charge, you or your emotions?

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I recently came across an article By Cody Delistraty: You’ll Be Happier If You Let Yourself Feel Bad’.

It talks about a study, led by University of Toronto Assistant Psychology Professor Brett Ford, which explores the link between our acceptance of negativity and our well-being.  Continue reading “Who’s in charge, you or your emotions?”

Thinking About Thoughts

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“The thought manifests as the word;

the word manifests as the deed;

the deed develops into habit;

and habit hardens into character.

So watch the thought and its ways with care,

and let it spring from love

born out of concern for all beings.”

Buddha

One (small?) step at a time…

Change can feel hard.

The prospect of putting in the necessary work can make us feel tired, just thinking about it.

What we want for the future can seem a long way off from where we are now. Continue reading “One (small?) step at a time…”

Holding onto anger…

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I use this concept myself, and with clients.

I think it describes very well what happens when we hold onto anger beyond the point at which it is useful to us – and when we hold a grudge. Continue reading “Holding onto anger…”

January 17th is “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day”

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January 17th is popularly thought to be the day when lots of people abandon their New Year’s resolutions and has, it seems, been nominated “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day”.

If you are struggling with your New Year resolutions or working towards any other changes in your life, and you don’t want to ditch them, you might find some of the ideas in my Blue Monday post helpful.

Alternatively, I find these two quotes inspire me and they might do the same for you:

“And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been.”

Rainer Maria Rilke

“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”

Chinese Proverb

Blue Monday … ?

numbers-1768348_640How is 2017 going for you?

I’m writing this on ‘Blue Monday’, the third Monday in January.emoticon-937608_1280

According to Caroline Webb’s article in The Telegraph, those of us who are in the UK today are “experiencing the bleakest day of the year … so named for its potent combination of cold nights and post-Christmas melancholy.” Continue reading “Blue Monday … ?”

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