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Thinking About Thoughts

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“The thought manifests as the word;

the word manifests as the deed;

the deed develops into habit;

and habit hardens into character.

So watch the thought and its ways with care,

and let it spring from love

born out of concern for all beings.”

Buddha

One (small?) step at a time…

Change can feel hard.

The prospect of putting in the necessary work can make us feel tired, just thinking about it.

What we want for the future can seem a long way off from where we are now. Continue reading “One (small?) step at a time…”

Holding onto anger…

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I use this concept myself, and with clients.

I think it describes very well what happens when we hold onto anger beyond the point at which it is useful to us – and when we hold a grudge. Continue reading “Holding onto anger…”

January 17th is “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day”

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January 17th is popularly thought to be the day when lots of people abandon their New Year’s resolutions and has, it seems, been nominated “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day”.

If you are struggling with your New Year resolutions or working towards any other changes in your life, and you don’t want to ditch them, you might find some of the ideas in my Blue Monday post helpful.

Alternatively, I find these two quotes inspire me and they might do the same for you:

“And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been.”

Rainer Maria Rilke

“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”

Chinese Proverb

Blue Monday … ?

numbers-1768348_640How is 2017 going for you?

I’m writing this on ‘Blue Monday’, the third Monday in January.emoticon-937608_1280

According to Caroline Webb’s article in The Telegraph, those of us who are in the UK today are “experiencing the bleakest day of the year … so named for its potent combination of cold nights and post-Christmas melancholy.” Continue reading “Blue Monday … ?”

Synecdochically Speaking … and Word of the Year 2016

 

Synecdochically… what a great sounding word!

You might not know what it means – and before watching lexicographer Erin McKean’s highly entertaining TED talk I’d never even heard of it.

magnifying-glass-390913_640McKean discusses the future of dictionaries in the age of the internet – which might sound dry but her presentation certainly isn’t – it’s full of life and humour and easy to understand. Continue reading “Synecdochically Speaking … and Word of the Year 2016”

Disruption – Friend or Foe?

angry-33059_640How do you react when your plans are disrupted? Do you go with the flow?

Or do you get angry? Do you do everything you can to get back on track with your original plan?

Perhaps sometimes you let go, and see what other options arise? Continue reading “Disruption – Friend or Foe?”

Mindapples: five-a-day for our minds

apple-336015_640I was talking to someone about resilience recently and was reminded of a CIPD branch event I went to a couple of years ago. The speaker was Andy Gibson, ‘Head Gardener’ at an organisation called ‘Mindapples’. Continue reading “Mindapples: five-a-day for our minds”

Outliers

I’m a fan of Malcolm Gladwell’s books – having previously really enjoyed ‘The Tipping Point’ and ‘Blink’.

In our pursuit of excellence and our ‘self-help’ culture we place a lot of emphasis on  personal effort and perseverance as the keys to success and often attribute lack of success to lack of effort and someone giving up too easily. Continue reading “Outliers”

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