I love the sight, sound, and smell of the sea so I moved to Goring-by-Sea in Worthing on the south coast of the UK a few years ago so that I can really enjoy it.
I’m self-employed now, but started off in the corporate world and have a background in finance and business, as well as human resources and learning and development – as a member of a team, a manager, and working on my own.
Since being self-employed I’ve worked with individuals, teams, and a variety of industries – including small, medium and large organisations – and several charities.
We all have times when everything feels out of kilter, when we feel we’re not coping, or we can’t see what’s next – and I’ve had my share of these, too. Or perhaps something has happened and you’re trying to make sense of it and work out what to do next.
It’s in these moments that coaching and/or counselling can be most helpful.
How I Work
I think it’s important to recognise that we each see the world differently – through the lens of our own life experience, beliefs and values.
For example, work can take many forms – based at home or elsewhere, paid or unpaid, employed or self-employed, full or part-time. What we do might be described as a job, a career, a vocation, a calling, or a more general purpose in life.
When this is going well we tend to thrive but when it goes badly, or we have none (because of unemployment or following redundancy, ill health or retirement, perhaps), it can affect so many other things – not just our cash flow, but also how we feel about ourselves, our role(s) in life, and our place in the world.
The state of our relationships, our health, and the health of those we care about can have a similarly stabilising (or de-stabilising) effect on us, too, and achieving some form of balance across all the various aspects of our lives isn’t always easy.
Our emotional health and well-being is important – personal resilience being key to how we survive (and thrive) in a busy and complex world and how we deal with all the challenges and changes that life entails – including those we welcome, and those we don’t.
You’re investing your time and money, so we work to your agenda. We will use our combined life experience and, occasionally, some theoretical models to examine what you think, feel and do, how you interact with others, and how you can address whatever it is that brings you here.
I have an Advanced Diploma in Professional Coaching and Mentoring from the Oxford School of Coaching and Mentoring, I am a member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (MCIPD), a Master Practitioner in Neuro-Lingustic Programming.(NLP) and qualified to use the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI).
I undertook my counselling Diploma at the Wealden Psychology Institute for which the three core theories were Person-Centred, Transactional Analysis and Gestalt. My Diploma is Humanistic and Integrative which means I draw on all these models plus my experience and qualifications as a trainer and a coach and my more recent continuing professional development (CPD) which enables me to include elements from:
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)
- Existential Therapy
- Therapeutic Groupwork
- Suicide Alertness and Prevention
I also have a Diploma in Online Counselling and Psychotherapy and I am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (Reg. MBACP) and abide by the BACP Ethical Framework.
Having attended safeTALK (suicide alertness for everyone) and ASIST (applied suicide intervention skills) courses myself a few years ago, I trained as a safeTALK trainer myself. I deliver courses in-house, and open to the public on behalf of Grassroots: a small Brighton based charity with a simple but powerful goal: that no one should have to contemplate suicide alone and elsewhere. For more details click here.
I volunteer with a couple of local organisations, too:
- As a counsellor at St Barnabas House (our local hospice in Worthing) where I work with various clients (1:1 and in groups). These include people who are bereaved, and others who are facing the prospect of their own death or bereavement because a friend or family member has been given a terminal diagnosis and who also might also be struggling with a new role as carer for someone whose health is deteriorating.
- As a peer mentor for clients who need additional help to access the support and services they need and also cooking and serving breakfasts and other meals at Worthing Churches Homeless Projects.
I’m not able to provide an emergency service so if you do you need to speak to someone urgently right now I recommend that you get help from elsewhere such as:
- Your GP (General Practitioner) – or your local equivalent if not in the UK
- Samaritans can be reached free of charge in the UK and Republic of Ireland on 116 123 from landlines and mobiles and they also respond to texts and emails – see their website: samaritans.org
- If you are outside the UK and don’t know who to contact, I suggest looking at Befrienders Worldwide or here to find a relevant telephone helpline/contact