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Holding onto anger…

holding onto anger

I use this concept myself, and with clients.

I think it describes very well what happens when we hold onto anger beyond the point at which it is useful to us – and when we hold a grudge. Continue reading “Holding onto anger…”

The impact of technology and the internet – let’s just think about it for a moment…

I was inspired this week by a meeting I went to on e-learning to share the following (short but effective) videos with you.

Here’s the first one (just under 5 minutes). As you’ll see, some of the statistics are already out of date (it’s from 2014) and you might disagree with some of the predictions, but I think it illustrates really well just how fast things are moving…

And, aimed more at the world of business, and only 2½ minutes long, I rather like this one, too:

Continue reading “The impact of technology and the internet – let’s just think about it for a moment…”

The Support (We Think) People Want or Need During Difficult Times

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Commonly known as ‘The Golden Rule’, versions of this sentiment can be found in many cultures and religious and moral frameworks.

It has a strong humanitarian message and seems to work well in a lot of situations.

However, the underlying assumption is that the treatment or behaviour we want or expect from others is the same as they would want from us – and there’s the rub. Continue reading “The Support (We Think) People Want or Need During Difficult Times”

How Do Men (and Boys) Grieve?

Last month’s BBC documentary ‘Rio Ferdinand: being Mum and Dad’ was very powerful, I thought. It’s currently on YouTube:

Continue reading “How Do Men (and Boys) Grieve?”

Single by Choice?

emotiguy-1723748_1280I came across an article recently challenging the assumption that everyone should either be in a relationship, or looking for one:

‘There’s a Word for the Assumption That Everybody Should be in a Relationship’ by Drake Baer. Continue reading “Single by Choice?”

January 17th is “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day”

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January 17th is popularly thought to be the day when lots of people abandon their New Year’s resolutions and has, it seems, been nominated “Ditch New Year’s Resolutions Day”.

If you are struggling with your New Year resolutions or working towards any other changes in your life, and you don’t want to ditch them, you might find some of the ideas in my Blue Monday post helpful.

Alternatively, I find these two quotes inspire me and they might do the same for you:

“And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been.”

Rainer Maria Rilke

“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”

Chinese Proverb

Blue Monday … ?

numbers-1768348_640How is 2017 going for you?

I’m writing this on ‘Blue Monday’, the third Monday in January.emoticon-937608_1280

According to Caroline Webb’s article in The Telegraph, those of us who are in the UK today are “experiencing the bleakest day of the year … so named for its potent combination of cold nights and post-Christmas melancholy.” Continue reading “Blue Monday … ?”

Friends for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime?

friends-1013856_640If you’ve been writing Christmas cards or sending e-cards, emails, texts or other Christmas and New Year messages recently you may well have been thinking about friends – who you’ve been in touch with this year, and who you haven’t.

What does ‘friendship’ mean to you? Does it mean the same to your friends? Continue reading “Friends for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime?”

Synecdochically Speaking … and Word of the Year 2016

 

Synecdochically… what a great sounding word!

You might not know what it means – and before watching lexicographer Erin McKean’s highly entertaining TED talk I’d never even heard of it.

magnifying-glass-390913_640McKean discusses the future of dictionaries in the age of the internet – which might sound dry but her presentation certainly isn’t – it’s full of life and humour and easy to understand. Continue reading “Synecdochically Speaking … and Word of the Year 2016”

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